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199: Hey, Jealousy

Good morning. I'm so sleepy.

I will have some Quilt Market Post Scripts later in the week. But for now, since it's fitting to today's topic, please enjoy this image from The Game of Happiness(tm):

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Do you ever  cringe when there is a new entry in your blog reader from one of your favorite bloggers? There are blogs that I have  to stop reading from time to time because I can get so jealous of people! It sucks! I know a lot of people go through this same thing, so I wanted to address it.

I remembered over the weekend that if I hadn't been at the Quilt Market , I would be reading all the reports and pretty much quietly imploding with envy.  So I just want to check in with you and see how you all are doing.

I truly hope that YummmyGoods will not be one of those blogs that you ever have to stop reading.
I purposely include my challenges because I want this to be real. Pretty, yes, but real too. And often , for me, that includes struggle with depression, self-doubt, and yes -jealousy.

I invite you to talk about this in the comments if it rings any bells for you. It's totally normal- just don't quietly implode! Trust me, the yucky feelings dissipate much quicker when we talk about them! 
If you have no idea what I am talking about here, then congratulations: you are a much better person than I am! 

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A preview of what's to come this week here on YummyGoods:

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That's right, my weekend haul from etstate sales, including 2 boxes of sewing patterns:

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and 2 bags of quilting fabric:

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I will leave you with this adorable illustration from a book I will share later:

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xo, m 


Posted on Tuesday, May 27, 2008 at 07:30AM by Registered Commentermelissa | Comments25 Comments

Reader Comments (25)

Unfortunately, I do know the crushing feeling of jealousy. When I analyze the reason, I can often pinpoint a shortcoming of my own that the target of my envy has hit. And I think that's a way to turn a negative into a postive b/c then you can address that shortcoming pronto. Make sense??

BTW, your work is lovely! keep it up!!!
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterdaisy janie
ding * ding * ding * Um, yeah. When the feeling gets overwhelming I have to step back and take a good look at myself and STOP COMPARING!! We are all unique and have our own way. So what if my way hasn't made it yet? That doesn't mean that it isn't going to happen. I then try to enjoy the right now because there is no guarantee of tomorrow.
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterbeki
It happens to all of us... but quickly I think of all the blessings life has bestowed on me, on my family - of the gifts I have been given - and slowly those jealous feelings ebb out and warm fuzzies take over! My heart feels better.

Those are the cutest patterns you lucked out on!!

Love your blog... still haven't taken "a break!" - though no promises once that fabric comes out!!! :) :) LOL. Just kidding - you know that don't u!!?? :)
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterAnnette
I don't get jealous so much as just lament the fact that I'll never break into the industry. But, then do I really want to? Or, do I just feel like I want to after I read such beautiful blogs and want to be like all the cool kids? Make any sense? Anyhow, I do so love your blog and look forward to a full reveal of your debut fabric line. From what little I have seen it will be drool worthy!
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commenterdana
First... Oooh, look what you got!!!

Second, I'm so jealous! LOL.
XO. You know how I feel. :)
b
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBari
Yep! I'm jealous!...but I'm also so very happy and excited for you. I'm glad that at least if I can't be at Quilt Market myself, someone like you is reporting back.
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJodi
I can totally relate. No matter what industry you are in, there is always someone else doing things cooler, better, with more press, with more financial resources, etc... I think the main thing is to be yourself 100%! Hell yeah I'm jealous of the Amy Butlers and Anna Maria Horners of the world. They have their sh*t together and are making it happen- but there is always room for new talent. Just do your thing and continue to be an inspiration to others with your honesty and humor! (I realized as I was writing that, that I needed my own pep talk- Thanks!)
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterMary Peyton
Thank you for being real. Jealous sometimes. Fustrated of course. But I am going to keep pushing and if it is meant to be for me it will happen until then I am going to keep working hard and keep telling myself I am only 25 Ive got my life ahead of me the best is yet to come *smile*
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterStefanie
as far as blogging goes, when i start to feel that way and begin to compare it's usually because i've forgotten why i started it in the first place!

can't wait to see your fabric line. i'll only be jealous if i can't get some ;).
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered Commentercindy k
Yep, definitely struck a cord here. I spend alot of time thinking "what are they doing differently that I should be doing or trying?" or "how, excatly, did this person get to the spot where I would like to be?" Hopefully, much blog reading and general research will take me down the path I'd like to follow. Great topic. ~jen~
May 27, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJen Eskridge
Great finds! Jen R
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJen R
I can totally relate. Blogging can be hard on the ego. Sometimes I think our mothers had it easy with no cyber-life to distract them. When I get jealous of others or too caught up in establishing my own online presence, I click that little X in the corner and go sew or spend time with real-life loved ones. Ultimately, those are the things that inspire me most.
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterKB VanHorn
Hi Sweetie - My DD and I met you at Market. :-) Just wanted to let you know that what you wrote totally rings true with me. I own a shop, usually work 70+ hours a week, have had lots of personal-life challenges the last couple of years, and so I read other people's blogs and long for the day when I will get to do *my* creative work again. But please, keep it coming! If I can't do, at least I can live vicariously! :-)
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJoyce
I wouldn't call my vice jealousy exactly, but it's definitely in the same category. It's almost like over-admiration. I do it with everything -- blogs, people I know. I get so that there's someone whose spirit or life or even just wardrobe is something I admire and suddenly I find myself a bit obsessed... I want to copy that person. I want to look through her pictures and see what she wears and then wear the same kinds of stuff. I want to take pictures everyday like she does, or learn to do the things she does.

It's a problem. In fact, it's a big problem lately because I feel all identity crisis-y and so I find it even harder to resist the urge to COPY COPY COPY.
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJulie @ Letter9
You crack me up!!!

I'm jealous of anyone who can actually make a post lately, since my poor blog is not working. :o( *boo hoo*

I can't wait to see the outcome of all the goodies you displayed!!!

Amelia
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterAmelia
Melissa, I was so happy to have met you in the Starbucks line at Quilters Market! You are a breath of fresh air and I really appreciate your tips on becoming a designer myself. You told me to never give up! I want you to know that you were inspiring and delightful to be around, even though we just bumped into eachother from time to time. I can't wait to buy some of your fabric and create something great! Congrats to you and I wish you all the best!
-Lucy
Melissa, I was so happy to have met you in the Starbucks line at Quilters Market! You are a breath of fresh air and I really appreciate your tips on becoming a designer myself. You told me to never give up! I want you to know that you were inspiring and delightful to be around, even though we just bumped into eachother from time to time. I can't wait to buy some of your fabric and create something great! Congrats to you and I wish you all the best!
As far as the jellousy goes, I only wish I was where you are now, other than that, I couldn't be happier for everyone elses successes. There is room for everyone to feel joy, so don't ever be too hard on yourself.
-Lucy
holy moly what finds! I am so very impressed
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterBetty
I'm right there with you...and so glad you brought this up. It does make me feel somewhat better.

I love surfing the blogs and flikr and etsy etc and seeing what everyone is doing. It can be so inspiring and all the amazing creativity is just awesome (or "wicked awesome" as we would have said back in BHS days). But I do find if I do it too much I just get down on myself. Why are all these people able to create such amazing things and I don't have time/energy to clean my kitchen counter?

My personal demon is feeling like a fake. I know I have a good eye and can certainly "put together" things well or copy. But when it comes to starting from scratch I get intimidated. But I'm working on pushing past that. Like so many of us I have inexplicable and unrelenting urge to "make stuff" so I'm going to just keep going. Maybe someday I'll be writing about my trip to quilt market... (I've really enjoyed your recounts, BTW).

For now I have to get my act together and maybe start up my own blog. First I have to convince myself it doesn't have to be perfect and it doesn't matter if no one reads it....

Jess
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterJessica
Well I was wondering why you haven't been around my blog for a while! hee hee hee

I know she is god-like and I appreciate her blah blah blah but I have to take big Soule Mama breaks because I start to feel real less than when I read her too much.

I always appreciate that you include the warts, it's part of your charm.

Can't wait to see all your treasures!
May 28, 2008 | Unregistered CommenterPaper Dolls For Boys

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